What Is Cock and Ball Torture? Ouch! That Feels… Good!

Some people prefer to be gentle with their genitals. They accidentally tap their balls with their pinky finger while washing themselves in the shower and double over in pain. But then there are the people who go through a much rougher series of events, only to orgasm at the end.

Those who like a little pain with their pleasure are more likely to become big fans of CBT — cock and ball torture.

Genital torture is a sexual act that isn’t for the squeamish (unless that’s part of the appeal for you). If you are curious about having your cock flattened like a homemade focaccia, who are we to yuck your yum? But before you take a paddle to any part of your pecker, you should know what to expect and how you can perform CBT safely.

What is cock and ball torture?

If you’re searching CBT with SafeSearch on, you’ll probably see a lot of hits for local psych offices offering cognitive behavioral therapy.

We would argue that our kind of CBT is its own type of therapy; it’s just a radically different approach that can end in sex and/or ejaculation. And hey — no copay!

Cock torture is a sexual activity where pain is purposefully inflicted on the male genitals. The level of desired pain varies from person to person. Some want it uncomfortable, and others crave the downright excruciating.

Is it weird to like CBT?

According to the DSM (that is, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), consensual sexual BDSM falls into the kink and fetish category. It’s not a mental disorder or psychiatric issue until it starts getting in the way of your daily life. You’re otherwise free to wack it around as much as you’d like! Try it with your partner pre-intercourse or add it to your masturbation rotation.

The psychology behind cock and ball torture, as it is with similar pain or power-trip kinks, primarily revolves around a penchant for surrendering to a dominant partner, yielding an adrenaline rush from the pain and vulnerability.

It’s this heady combination of factors that makes it such an exciting kink despite the taboo aspects (or more likely because of them). Many combine it with other sexual humiliation kinks like chastity, cuck play, and bondage.

BDSM is a normal, healthy way to express yourself sexually, provided you’re careful with how you play. Improperly practiced kinks can cause medical problems, and CBT is among the most likely to harm your health — potentially permanently. Remember the BDSM maxim: safe, sane, and consensual.

So…should I try it?

This might sound obvious, but again, cock and ball torture isn’t for everyone. To some, it’s a grisly sex act that induces cringing and a withering erection. And understandably so — a lot of it involves turning your junk into a speed bag and pounding it into sweet, sweet submission.

But if you get a funny feeling down there when you hear this, perhaps practicing penis torture is right for you.

Types of cock and ball torture

Now that we’re clear on which kind of CBT we’re referring to, let’s get into the nitty-gritty. Here are the primary types of cock and ball torture that will leave you or your partner howling with glee before the penis milking even begins.

Ball busting/crushing

The term “busting your balls” has never been so literal. This particular type of CBT focuses on the scrotum and testicles.

It’s the most common and the one you likely associate with cock and ball torture already. You can do this with slapping, closed fists, or impact toys.

Depending on how intense the busting is, there’s a chance of inducing testicular trauma or rupture here. This can cause other complications, like blood clots and fertility loss, so take care and listen to your body. Pleasurable pain can become a visit to the ER in the blink of an eye if you aren’t careful.

Penis flogging

Penis flogging involves beating his shaft like you’re washing laundry down by the river. It usually employs a cane or paddle for smacking and may be accompanied by a cockstrap for added constriction and discomfort.

Take heed; flogging can cause lacerations that may become infected if they aren’t adequately cared for.

Wax play

Wax play is one of the safer ways to try cock and ball torture since you can control and test the temperature beforehand. However, pouring hot wax on your skin can obviously cause burns when done incorrectly, so always play it safe.

If you’re curious about trying CBT, this might be a good place to start. Use candles designed for wax play; they have a lower melting point that will prevent burns.

Penis trampling

Imagine your penis on the ground with a herd of wildebeests charging forth. If playing phallic Mufasa gives you even a slight erection, then congratulations! You might be a penis-trampling enjoyer.

Penis trampling usually involves a dom walking over their partner’s genitals, often stomping on them like they’re making cock-flavored wine. This understandably ranks exceptionally high in the risk or injury category. There’s a chance of fracturing the penis — especially if you have an erection — among other pretty horrifying health risks that we’ll leave up to your imagination.

Urethra play

You might have heard of this type of penis play called another term — sounding. It’s a type of foreplay wherein you insert a small sounding rod into the urethra to stretch it out. You can also use other toys and tools, but sounds are most common.

This version of CBT needs a more glaring disclaimer: There’s a lot that can go wrong medically when you try urethra play. Risks include getting the sound stuck in the urethra to UTIs, erectile dysfunction, incontinence, and even gangrene.

You can mitigate these risks by only using purpose-built, sterilized tools. And make sure you aren’t using the tools for anything other than urethra play.

How to perform cock and ball torture — safely

If you’ve been floating around in a soup of ecstasy thinking about testing the Mohs hardness of your family jewels, then it’s time to come back down to Earth and address the grim realities of CBT.

It’s possible to perform cock and ball torture safely. Many people participate in this kink without harming their genitals beyond measure. But it’s certainly easy to go too far and leave a BDSM session with irreparable damage to your body. Here’s how to minimize the risks:

1. Boundaries? You better believe it

Would it be a Grindr article about kink without a lesson in communicating clear boundaries during sex? 

It’s never been more important to mention than in this article. CBT can be dangerous stuff, exciting as it might be for the squasher and squashee. You and your partner (or partners) must establish a safe word and maintain an open dialogue about how you’re feeling at all times.

2. Start small

Starting your genital torture journey by throwing your ballsack in a blender is probably not the wisest way to go about things. To avoid accidentally inducing sexual or erectile dysfunction, start light and work your way up to spicier positions involving power tools.

This is essential for the person with the titular cock and balls, as it gives them the chance to explore their boundaries. The more precise you are about your boundaries, the easier it is to communicate them — and keep them from being breached.

3. Aftercare

Pain and arousal are intrinsically intertwined. But for many BDSM enjoyers, a lot of strong emotions arise when the dust settles.

Like with all kinks, aftercare is a crucial part of any BDSM scene. Take time to digest and discuss the acts after you’ve finished. It’s especially beneficial if you’re participating with a long-term romantic partner, as you can cuddle, come down from the high, and reaffirm your trust and affection after such an intense sex act.