Met on Grindr: Freddy & Nicholas

Freddy & Nicholas met on Grindr over three years ago. Here’s how Freddy describes their origin story:

I remember watching an episode on manifestation by Oprah and instantly writing down every quality that I’d like in my dream man... fast forward, Boom💥 I’m on Grindr.

“I honestly forgot about the list completely, Nicholas messaged me and it was always casual... although I wasn’t entirely interested at first because it seemed like we wanted different things. We continued talking and he seemed like a genuine human being with a big heart, you could feel his warmth through the phone. Talk about energy—something about Nicholas was just different and hard to pinpoint.

He invited me over for dinner. I was expecting steak and something fancy but walked into beef patties and a baked potato… totally threw me off. But his attention to detail was immaculate— everything tasted so flavorful. After dinner, I was serenaded by the beautiful-sounds of him playing his piano. He was talented and I learned that he’s a classically trained pianist. I was a professional ballet dancer at the time and so his skillset, artistry, and precision blew me away. I later learned that he was autistic, high functioning. I had a cousin with autism but I’ve never been intimately involved with anyone with autism before. Also I worried about what people would think about our age difference (update: it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks). We spoke for hours that night. In that instant, I knew my heart was his.

Everything moved rather quickly after that. About a month later, I moved in.”

We both had so much learning about each other to do—toxic cycles to unpack and unlearn, love languages to understand. However three and half years later I couldn’t be more sure that he’s my guy. He’s literally everything I could have asked for and more.