What Is a Golden Shower? Everything You Should Know About Piss Play

Romance doesn’t have to be confined to candlelit meals and flower bouquets. It can also be measured in glittering streams of gold.

And we don’t mean a trip to the jewelry store. We’re talking about liquid assets — specifically liters of warm piss. After all, what’s a golden shower but a testament to love, trust, and entering the gilded age of your kinky era? 

If you’re new to piss kinks, urine luck. Grab your goggles and a waterproof notepad; Grindr is here to answer all your questions about golden showers. From existential queries about the meaning of golden showers to proper prep and etiquette, we’ll ensure every last drop makes a splash. 

What’s a golden shower? 

In simple dictionary terms, a golden shower is the act of peeing on someone for sexual pleasure. Also known as urophilia or watersports in BDSM circles, golden showers hold a prominent spot in the kink and fetish community.

Like a beautiful yellow snowflake, each man’s piss fantasy is unique. The urination destination is up to personal preference — it can cascade into a mouth or asshole, drench a tummy, or dribble down your leg. 

But golden showers are just the sprinkle before the storm. Despite the name, watersports don’t always require you to gear up for a full-contact experience. People with a urine fetish may also feel sexual arousal from holding their pee on a full bladder or urinating in front of others. Some enjoy the sensory experience, getting off on listening, smelling, tasting, or touching urine. Like any other kink, it’s different streams for different wet dreams. 

Why do people like golden showers? 

Golden showers are no different from other BDSM acts that push the boundaries of control and power exchange. Although there’s no way to decipher why one person wants to suck on feet and another enjoys being peed on, both acts explore Dominant-submissive power exchanges in a safe, consensual environment.

Like many BDSM kinks and fetishes, golden showers leave a bad taste in the mouths of close-minded people. But a piss kink is nothing to be ashamed of. Here are some reasons you may be curious about or aroused by watersports:

1. Tie me up! Tie me down! If you’re on the receiving end, a golden shower might represent a moment to relinquish control to your partner. Whether you’re restrained or not, you must yield psychological and physical control as your partner empties their full bladder onto you. Sexual gratification may come from enjoying submissive sex and discipline. It could also provide an intimate opportunity to accept your partner in their entirety, excrement and all.
2. Daddy’s in the house: If you prefer to be on the giving end, a golden shower may fill you with a powerful sense of dominance. Marking or anointing your partner affirms your control or possession over the sexual experience, which can be powerfully erotic. 
3. Make stigmas sexy again: The thrill of taboo sex acts is a major boner maker. If there is an element of humiliation or punishment, you may get a naughty thrill from sex acts that you wouldn’t engage in under “normal” circumstances. 
4. You’re just an emiction enthusiast: Your love for golden showers might not be that deep. Some simply appreciate the sensation of giving or receiving, whether it’s the sound of urine hitting someone’s tushy or the warmth of your partner’s pee against your skin. Maybe the never-ending suspense before a Big Gulp-size eruption provides a sensory overload that makes your toes curl. 

Ultimately, there’s no such thing as a “normal” sex act. As long as the experience is consensual and safe, a golden shower is just another way to express trust, intimacy, and connection. 

How to properly give a golden shower

There’s no right or wrong way to piss on your partner, but some techniques can enhance your experience. Here are a few tips to be a bladder baddie: 

1. Location! Location! Location! We want those post-sex cuddles. But it’s a little tricky if you have to put the mattress in the backyard to dry. The best place for a golden shower is — you guessed it — the shower. A drain and faucet make cleaning up bodily fluids a cinch. If the shower feels too clean for your dirty self, purchase a waterproof tarp or large plastic sheet. Just stay away from absorbent materials. A towel isn’t going to soak up a whole stream, and you may end up ruining that lovely hardwood flooring. Try explaining that one to your landlord. 
2. Preparation is paramount: Just like a considerate bottom keeps things clean, a good pee partner preps. This means filling your bladder while avoiding substances that may render the smell or color of your urine unenticing. Unless intense smells and colors are part of the fun, we recommend laying off the asparagus, beets, and coffee. Instead, drink lots of water to dilute your urine. 
3. Be ready for the comedown: An aftercare bag with towels, wet wipes, and a change of clothes makes post-play clean-up easy and comfortable. If you’re into orifices, stock up on mouthwash and a douche to get squeaky clean afterward. 
4. Discuss your boundaries: Like any other sexual experience, talk about each other’s expectations, boundaries, and off-limit zones. A safe word (pick something like “apple pie” rather than “stop”) or signal lets the receiver tap out if they feel overwhelmed or change their mind mid-stream. Saying “red,” “yellow,” or “green” can also communicate things like “stop,” “slow down,” or “go.” 

Are golden showers safe?

Generally speaking, yes. Standing under that golden rain doesn’t pose a serious threat to your sexual health. Although your pee isn’t sterile, the small amount of bacteria it contains is unlikely to transmit illness or disease. 

If you want to be extra safe, a general rule of thumb is to stay away from holes. Piss is sneaky; it gets into even the smallest of crevices. Don’t aim your stream directly into someone’s mouth, anus, or eyes. Your partner might ingest or absorb urine through mucus membranes, which could cause irritation or infection.