14 Bondage Positions That Will Leave Him Gagged (Literally)

When you know how to tie up a hot stud so he’s ready to be ravaged, it’s cuffing season all year round. But if you’re just dipping your toes into the hot, waxed world of BDSM, you might not know precisely how to get bent out of shape. 

Finding comfortable bondage positions isn’t as easy as the shibari masters make it look. Many advanced sexual positions require flexibility, communication, and a pair of comfortable handcuffs. But once you find the sweet spot, you’ll be laying down the law (and the pipe) in no time.

Here’s our list of the best bondage positions to leave your man bound and gagged.

Baby’s first bondage: Beginner sex positions to try

If you want to be gagged by your partner’s performance rather than a bondage knot, these are the best sex positions for dabbling in light bondage:

Mirror of pleasure

This go-to position is fit for the most vanilla of bondage babes. It’s like the standard missionary position you practice in “normal” circumstances, letting the top go as deep as he wants.

The bottom lays on his back with his ankles bound together and raised in the air. The top kneels down, rests the bottom’s ankles on one of his shoulders, and pounds from underneath. Tops with a foot fetish also have ample access to their partner’s little piggies. 

The merman

While you’re in the mirror of pleasure position, you can easily transition into the merman. Rather than resting his ankles on the top’s shoulder, the bottom lays in a semi-fetal position and gets screwed from the side. Both are excellent positions for booty and thigh slapping. 

Side-by-side

Another position to transition into is the side-by-side. The bottom lies on his side and brings his knees to his chest. The top lies behind him in a spooning position and pounds from the side. 

Legs up, wrists to knees

This position allows for extra-deep penetration. The submissive partner lies on his back, legs lifted toward the ceiling and wrists bound to knees (or ankles, if he’s flexible). This versatile position is ideal for fingering, oral, or hard pounding. 

Furniture-assisted positions: Everything but the kitchen sink

You don’t need special BDSM equipment to get naughty — although a pair of cuffs can make binding a lot easier. Here are a few positions that use your furniture:

The chair

Tying your partner to a chair provides a fun sex position for all you Dom bottoms out there (we see you). All you need is a sturdy chair with armrests and a back. The sub sits with his wrists tied to the armrests and ankles to the chair legs. Start with  striptease, slowly bringing your body close enough for him to lick and kiss. Then, lower yourself onto his cock and work your magic.

Bent over chair

This is the perfect position to explore domination and master-servant role-play. The sub bends over a chair with his chest resting against the seat and knees on the ground, restraining his wrists to the chair legs. It’s great for spanking, flogging, or using a vibrator on his tush. Time to break out your favorite panties and French maid costume! 

The spread eagle

Ready to put it all on display? The bottom lays face down on the bed with his arms and legs spread wide, restrained to the bed’s corner posts or frame. This one’s ideal for exploring sensation play while blindfolded, like tickling, flogging, or massaging. A power bottom can flip the script by restraining his top face-up and riding cowboy.

If you don’t have a frame, you can buy a bed restraint kit that loops straps under the bed. 

Bondage positions for blow jobs

Although the spread eagle and the chair will spice up a blowjob, you can never have too many BJ positions. Here are four more to suck him dry:

Zeus

If you love watching your partner look up into your eyes while your dick is in the back of his throat, the Zeus is the ideal position. The sub kneels down on a pillow and sits on his heels, hands restrained behind his back. The Dom stands in front of him, enjoying dick slaps, deep-throating, or ball-sucking. 

The crab tie

For Doms that love facefucking their partners, the crab tie is a fun variation on a 69 position. The sub lays on his back with his head hanging off the edge of the bed. He raises his knees to his chest so the Dom can bind his calves to his forearms with a silk tie or fabric cuff.

The Dom has complete control, starting with some dick slapping or ball sucking before kneeling over and fucking the sub’s mouth. He can also spread his submissive partner’s legs apart and enjoy mutual oral. 

The frogtie

Binding your partner’s ankles to his thighs gives you a genital buffet. You can give him a blow job, pleasure his prostate with your favorite vibrator, or do both simultaneously.

Start by securing the submissive partner’s arms behind his back. If he has a nice chest, you can loop bondage tape just underneath his nipples so those titties are at full attention. Help him into a kneeling position and pull his feet close to his ass, taping his ankles to his thighs. 

The hogtie

The hogtie totally immobilizes the sub, kicking the Dom’s blowjob experience up a notch. The sub lies on his belly with his hands behind his back and feet raised to his butt. Using cuffs or ties, tie all four limbs together. The Dom then kneels in front so his penis is in the sub’s face.

The Dom sets the depth and pace, grabbing onto the sub’s head to control the blowjob. Start slow, allow for breathing breaks, and use a safeword (or snap your fingers if your mouth is full).

Prop master: Bondage positions to stockpile your sex dungeon

So you got a taste of bondage, and you like it? Here are different sex positions that require you to break out your credit card and stockpile your fuck den:

Bottom’s up

The sub kneels down on all fours, spreading his legs apart, butt in the air (like he just don’t care), and head on a pillow. Bring his arms underneath and between his legs. Using a spreader bar, cuff his wrists and ankles. Besides the view, it’s a perfect position for giving rim jobs and ball and perineum stimulation. 

The frequent flier

For fancy bitches with sturdy doors, a sex swing lets the sub sit back and take it all in. Safety first: Following the sex swing instructions, fasten the swing and shut the door securely.

To get into position, secure the seated partner’s ankles into straps and pull them up over the Dom’s shoulders. Wearing his ankles like earrings will make you feel like a bougie bitch, guaranteed. 

The armbinder gag

A combination ball gag and hand restraint keeps you immobilized and quiet! Talk about the ultimate pillow prince. The sub wears a ball gag tied around his head, which is attached at the back to a strap with wrist restraints. He then lays on his chest while the top pounds him jockey style. 

Not so fast, bondage boy: 3 sex safety tips

Whether you’re a freshman fetishist or a certified Shibari master, safety always comes first. Before you hogtie your man, follow these safety tips. 

1. Make sure it’s consensual

Sex requires enthusiastic consent, especially if you’re exploring new and potentially harmful fetishes. Mid-blowjob isn’t the right time or place to ask your man if you can hogtie him. When you’re in the heat of the moment, you might agree to sex acts you wouldn’t normally be comfortable with. 

Always discuss your sexual fantasies outside of the bedroom, ensuring no one feels coerced and safety precautions (like safe words or hard-no’s) are established. Likewise, plan for aftercare. Cuddles, a warm bath, or Netflix and actual chilling are fantastic techniques to calm down after an intense session. 

2. Learn proper tying techniques

It’s all fun and games until nerve damage enters the sex dungeon. If a Dom doesn’t have his bondage rope merit badge, tight or poorly positioned rope can cause severe harm. You can injure nerves, leading to long-term or permanent nerve damage. Likewise, an excessively tight binding can create a blood clot in seconds, stimulating a heart attack, stroke, or death. 

If you’re eager to add bondage knots to your bedroom repertoire, take a class or find a tribe of BDSM lovers so you can learn the ropes with erotic pros. 

3. Loosey goosey 

Your partner should be focused on your stiff dick, not overly snug ties. Always leave a one-finger gap between a sub’s skin and the chosen restraint, whether using handcuffs, silk ties, or bondage rope. 

And if you don’t feel comfortable with handcuffs and ties, look for restraints that are easy to get out of. Velcro ties and cuffs, bondage tape, spreader bars, and sex swings are designed to readjust or release when the sensation is unsafe or uncomfortable.