Perfect Your Profile With 5 Ideas For Your Dating App Bio

People leave their dating app bios blank for all kinds of reasons. Sometimes it’s pure laziness. Others have safety or privacy concerns, and some just like to let their profile pictures do the talking.

Does it even matter anyway? In the words of many online dating bios, “Does anyone even read these?” According to a poll on the Grindr subreddit, a whopping 78% of people actually do.

What you put in your bio says a lot about you, even if you choose to leave it blank. But if you’ve skipped over the bio because you just can’t think of anything to say, we’re here to help.

Building your dating profile

Before you start writing your dating profile About Me, see what fields the app you’re using offers so you don’t waste valuable bio real estate saying the same thing twice.

Filling out your Grindr profile is completely optional, but it’s a great way to give people a preview of who you are and what you’re looking for. Here’s a quick look at all the info you can pack into your profile:

• Stats: Age, height, weight, body type, position, ethnicity, relationship status, and tribe
• Expectations: What you’re looking for, where you want to meet, and whether you’re okay with NSFW pics
• Identity: Gender and pronouns
• Health: Sexual health and vaccination status
• Social links: Instagram, Spotify, Twitter, and Facebook

Every dating app is a little different. We obviously stan Grindr, but whatever you’re using, see which pre-set options the larger profile offers so you have the space to create a more personalized message in your bio.

To profile pic or not to profile pic

That really is the question. It all comes down to what you’re here for and how you want to be perceived. One study of Grindr users suggested that including a face selfie suggests sincerity, torso pictures suggest secrecy and an emphasis on sex, and blank pictures imply you’re, for whatever reason, not wanting to show yourself. 

So when deciding whether to use a picture and which one to use, think about the kind of message you want to send and choose accordingly.

What to include in your bio

You get up to 225 characters to describe yourself in your Grindr About Me. That might sound like plenty of space, but you’ll quickly find that you don’t have room to tell your whole life story — and unless you’re on an amazing first date, no one wants to know that much about you.

Before you read through our short bio examples, ask yourself these questions:

What am I trying to get out of this?

If you’re just here for a one-time hookup, you don’t need to waste much energy on your bio. You can even leave it blank if you want.

But if you’re looking for FWB, a long-term relationship, or your soulmate (hey, you never know), giving other users a taste of your flavor can better your chances of finding a potential match.

What’s my ideal match?

Picture the kind of person you’re usually attracted to. You probably have a good handle on your preferences about sexuality, position, and looks. 

But what about their personality? If conversation is at the bottom of your priority list, you may want someone who gets to the point and doesn’t waste time with chit-chat. Or maybe you want someone to banter with or someone who’s as into anime as you are.

You don’t have to include these descriptions in your bio, but it’s helpful to keep your ideal match in mind as you write — understanding who you’re trying to attract will help you choose the right words.

What are my dealbreakers?

Your bio sets the tone for what you’re looking for, so it shouldn’t just be a big list of what you don’t want. But if there are any absolute dealbreakers you know you’d never compromise on, they might be worth including.

In general, it’s better to focus on what you do want in your About Me. But if you’re struggling to come up with the positive attributes you’re looking for, start with what you don’t want. Then think about that attribute’s opposite.

For example, if you have strict fitness standards, don’t use body-shaming language to call out the type of person you’re not attracted to. Instead, describe the person you would be into — someone who likes their gym time and prioritizes health.

What are my selling points?

Self-deprecation can show that you have a good sense of humor, but you also run the risk of turning potential matches off. At the same time, talking yourself up too much can make you sound egotistical.

So think about the qualities the person you’re looking for would appreciate. Then think about how you can frame those qualities in a way that makes you look good without sounding overly pompous).

What am I comfortable revealing?

You might want to include personal details like your occupation, hobbies, or the neighborhood you live in. But you don’t owe that information to anyone. Even if you’re looking for a serious relationship, be cautious about sharing too much until the people you’re talking to have a chance to earn your trust.

Bad About Me examples (aka what not to do)

You don’t have to look far to find bad dating app bio examples for male users, female users, or any other identity. Next time you’re browsing profiles, take note of the type of language that turns you off — then be sure to avoid it in your own profile.

Here’s some of the language that probably won’t get you very far:

• Negativity: We already talked about avoiding dislikes and self-deprecation, focusing on what you do want instead of what you don’t. Try to avoid negativity as a general rule, whether it’s about you or the people viewing your profile. Your favorite things will make a better first impression than a long list of the things you hate.
• Dismissiveness: If you were too cool for Grindr, you wouldn’t be here. So if you’re thinking of putting something like “I probably won’t respond” or “all the guys on here are trash” in your bio, just don’t.
• Dishonesty: You can call yourself a nice guy, but people will see right through you. Don’t sell yourself as a bad boy if you’re not one. If there’s a quality you’re not proud of, just leave it out — don’t lie.
• Unpopular opinions: Sharing an opinion most people would disagree with is fine, but don’t do it just to make yourself sound special.

5 fun bio examples to get you inspired  

Still getting cock-blocked by writer’s block? The best bio is short, honest, and shows your personality. When in doubt, you can always have some fun with emojis — “XL🍆👀4🍑” will tell him all he needs to know.

When emojis don’t cut it, try a meme, a flirty pickup line, or a quote from your favorite movie or TV show.

But if you’re looking to express yourself in your bio with quotes, humor, or a clever conversation starter, these fun bio examples will make anyone who taps your profile send the first message, no matter which dating site you’re on.

• Funny bio: I don’t need a spoonful of sugar to swallow you 😉
• Flirty bio: Sweeter and hotter than your morning coffee. Tap for a taste 👅
• Clever bio: I’m like a Rubik’s cube. The more you play with me, the harder I get
• Creative bio: Good boys rarely make history, but bad boys always make for a good time
• Short quote bios: Mark Twain said, “Life is short. Break the rules.” Ready to break some with me?